The irony of Christians against same-sex marriage

“The ironing is delicious.” — Bart Simpson

There’s an irony when it comes to the same-sex marriage deal among Christians who oppose it because the Bible says marriage should be between a man and a woman. My bigger issues is that that is not the big issue. The biggest issue I see is that there is no love.

The most important thing Jesus told us is to love God and love God’s people. God’s people is everybody. This is the priority.

Yet I see people who are against same-sex marriages condemning those who see it differently, throwing Scriptures all around and claiming that their view is right and everyone else is wrong.

Sure, yeah, we are quoting Scripture for argument and that’s fine. But how are we doing it? Quoting it without love does nothing. The condemnation, judgment, the in your face “my view is the right way and only way” approach is not what God is about.

How is what we’re doing a reflection of loving people? It’s no different than being one of those people who walk to a gay pride parade with a sign that says “You’re going to Hell; accept Jesus.” Not to the same extent, but then again, it’s not that different from it either.

If we truly are Christian and we truly love people, then why would we publicly admonish those that see things differently in a way that does not represent love? After all, isn’t that the most important thing that God asks of us? To love like He does?

Disagreeing with someone on things happens all the time. Believing that we’re right is not the issue. It’s the issue of how we are expressing it. When we condemn people for not seeing things our way, publicly throwing Scripture around, making people feel less of God’s love, we too are no better. In fact, nobody is better than one another.

What kind of message are we sending about God if we’re using God’s name to condemn?

Whatever happened to taking the time and effort to know the people and speaking to them thoughtfully with love? Putting up picket signs and throwing Scripture to prove our own point isn’t love. What good is Scripture when the mouth that reads from the Bible isn’t spoken with love?

When we feel that you have all the answers, we actually know nothing at all. We don’t tolerate people that are different. We love them and if they are different, love them still because that’s all God wants from us. Condemning people for their differences is not our place. Our place is to love.

The irony is that we are a faith group that is based in love, yet our actions do not reflect it. I have no problem discussing the issue and voicing my thoughts on it. But I do it where every voice is equal.

I am not saying I have all the answers because I don’t. Nobody does. All I know is that we need to engage with an open heart, because that’s what God wants from us. We don’t want to misrepresent God’s love just because we disagree with others. Because when we don’t, we’re hurting each other.



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4 responses to “The irony of Christians against same-sex marriage

  1. Should the Federal government enshrine a doctrine of marriage which some conservative Evangelical Christians support, or change it for a doctrine of marriage which most young people and many other Christians support, because it is fairer?

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  4. Reblogged this on Love God, Love People, Change the World and commented:
    This is part 3 of a 5 part reblog series taken from Samuel Lam’s “Write a Blog on a Log” dealing with questions of faith and fear, inclusion and exclusion. Sam has an unusually nuanced and fair approach to issues like homosexuality, bullies, salvation, and fundamentalism. This third post reminds us that, if we speak even in the tongues of heaven but do not have love, we are nothing more than noisy gongs and clanging cymbals.

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